August 7, 2013 1:04 PM PDT
I am here because of people like Kixx, Tanya and the other ladies, some of whom I have had the pleasure of befriending, who remind me that this is a scene populated by intelligent, witty, articulate and socially very attractive people whose company I enjoy. I am also here because it is good to have a forum in which to discuss the things that we do discreetly and in a free and open manner, without the risk of censure.
I find it very strange that anyone should delude themselves into thinking that submissives are weak and ' generally available', a rather repugnant form of 'commodity thinking' that demeans submissives. I suspect it is because such people do not know many submissives, most of whom, in my experience, exude personal strength from every pore.
When a lady finds somebody who appeals to her, she has the natural gift to communicate that fact with subtlety.. and unless and until that fact is communicated, a Top is wise to confine himself to polite social interest.
I like to be inspired by people. There are quite a few here who do just that. My thanks and appreciation to them for so doing.
August 7, 2013 2:53 PM PDT
Markham , has just said eloquently what I wish I could of said myself ,
August 7, 2013 3:54 PM PDT
So many wonderful comments... but Markham... you take the cake. Thank you for your kind (and insightful) words. <3
August 7, 2013 3:55 PM PDT
Pex said:
Why is it important to remember that this isn't a dating website? Surely if 2 people meet on here they may be allowed to go for a date if they so wish?
I think it's fantastic if people should happen to meet here Pex, but some men come to this site expecting every woman here to be at his beck and call. That is not what this site is about.
August 7, 2013 8:52 PM PDT
So they genuinely believe the woman has a duty to come running? Shouldnt imagine there are many like that and presumably it only takes one sentence to set someone straight. Sure it's not just play or testing the water anyway? I think I should just stay clear of the more negative forums in future!
August 8, 2013 4:28 AM PDT
There are so many more than you realize Pex. Ask just about any woman on this site... new members come in and you barely get a "hello my name is... " out of them before they start barking out orders and threatening discipline. Sure, spanking can be fun too, but for the most part I don't take it lightly. I'm not one to pretend I have a Dad, or any of that silliness. I certainly am not interested in internet spankings from someone I've never even met. Sometimes just saying "no thank you" is enough, but sometimes it goes on and on. Don't get me wrong, I have made a LOT of good friends here, but those others sure make it hard to keep coming back.
August 8, 2013 5:17 AM PDT
Of course this discussion also applies in reverse; women who want Internet spankings from men who aren't willing to give them. Surprising as it may seem, we do exist!
August 9, 2013 3:41 AM PDT
Everyone wants different things, I have met people on here that do want cyber discipline without meeting or even real introduction, I think you have to remember it is exciting for some people, others don't want anything apart from the real thing, but are happy to meet after chatting on here.
August 9, 2013 4:31 AM PDT
I couldn't agree more with "to each his/her own", but when men start assuming every woman on this site is here for their pleasure... that I have a problem with.
August 9, 2013 4:45 AM PDT
well Kixx i don't know what you are referring to exactly but we all seek pleasure (men and woman), it is only natural. I kind of assume that because I derive pleasure from being dominant and giving spankings, when I find submissive I assume they are deriving pleasure from being submissive therefore it becomes a mutually beneficial relationship.
August 9, 2013 6:50 AM PDT
I think Kixx is refering to the men who think just because they use language they assume a dom would use , then every woman they talk to will drop everything ( including their knickers ) for them .
Its a matter of thinking how would you like others to treat your sister ,daughter , mother and acting in the same way .
By the way Kixx is not the only lady to mention this problem nor is this site the only one that sees this problem , a friend of mine is on a bondage site similar to this one and he sees the same issue
August 12, 2013 2:37 PM PDT
just my 2 cents worth, for me it is to chat and interact with others with similar interest and experiences.
August 12, 2013 4:23 PM PDT
becki said:
just my 2 cents worth, for me it is to chat and interact with others with similar interest and experiences.
I couldn't agree more becki. Making friends with similar interests is so important.